Weekly...no way. We both work full time (together, same building might I add...and we carpool together). We had a date night in Sep, not in Oct, nothing so far in Nov.
Ohhhh nooooo GW... that worries me. You guys have kids then, I'm guessing? Wow. No date night since Sep. IMHO that's too long GW... these days we start getting scrappy and withdrawing if we go a couple weeks without. Is there anything you can do at all on a weekly basis? Even to make a special point of deciding together to buy a new bottle of wine (or whatever if you're not drinkers) every friday and share a quiet drink and just talk for a half-hour?
Originally Posted By: gutwrenching
So how did you get past the Bridges of Madison County? Anything your husband could have done to get you past that sooner?
I think it was just what you're doing now GW - opening up. The more he tells me about his own thoughts, feelings, even fears and areas he feels weak, the more attracted I am to him. I know a lot of folks here talk about women not being attracted to a man who shares his feelings, but I'm just not like that I guess. When he does, I feel like...wow... I can really relate to what he's saying; that he feels the same way I do sometimes... just ...human... he makes mistakes like I do; he worries about work like I do. And, he talks to ME about it! Like, he values my opinion and wants to share these important things in his life with ME?! Then, combine that with him now starting to take time to show me how physically attracted he is to me? Wow. Phew. Heady stuff. It just makes me feel that I'm so important and significant to him. That's when the whole 'bridges' thing fades away.
But the date nights..yeek GW... it's so important. IMHO you gotta start with something in that direction.
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