Question about arguing

[gutwrenching]

She said that too me earlier in the day on Saturday...well before the big argument. It was when we were about to have a small argument about something else and I could tell she was annoyed so I opened up (the new me!) and told her I was having a rough few days dealing with the fact that she was having these feelings and I was losing trust...and then we talked a little and she was trying to make me understand without hurting me deeply. So she said, remember the book the Bridges of Madison County? I said yes. And then she tells me that is what she feels like.

Everyday rituals we need to get better at in my opinion. The one constant is the one you describe above, the snuggle before falling asleep, in fact in the last few days she told me how safe she feels while doing this. I've tried to get a monthly date night going, but that has failed. Weekly...no way. We both work full time (together, same building might I add...and we carpool together). We had a date night in Sep, not in Oct, nothing so far in Nov.

So how did you get past the Bridges of Madison County? Anything your husband could have done to get you past that sooner?