Those who do get offended need to get a thicker skin.
Amen
Thicker skin? Good lord ... agreed ... but in TIME! We're talking about the walking wounded here people.
That being said ... to answer Rob's question ...
Rob, you've never posted directly to me so no, not directly offended by any of your posts. And although I agree with the vast majority of what you say, I do find your style a little over the top. Perhaps it's on purpose, knowing that most newbies might react to the "shock and awe factor", perhaps it's just your personality ... whatever, to each his own. As long as we all check our egos at the door, welcome debate and stay respectful, I've got no problem. Coach, Greek and PDT have all posted to me and I've never been offended by anything they've posted, or their style of posting either. Direct is usually effective (eventually!). And we all know ... "do what works"
I would agree that a variety of styles, perspectives and opinions is what made this board so effective at supporting and advising the people who post here. I do conceed that we need to respect MWD and the DB philosophy and would argue that the majority of vets do, while drawing on their personal sitchs to augment what the books have to offer.
I would also like to point out that my only concern re some of the advice given is that sometimes it seems that there isn't enough focus on helping the noob get to a place where they are following the advice (setting them free, letting go, dropping the rope ... and setting boundaries) from a calm, non-emotional (NOT angry, resentful, vengeful) place. I know you all advocate it, but it seems to get lost in the noise ... with the focus so heavily leaning towards the tactics (the WHAT) sometimes it seems like the HOW (and better yet, how the noob can achieve the HOW) gets too little attention. JMHO.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
