You'll have to let a lot of the stuff in the last paragraph go. When I have the girls it is my responsibility to make sure they get their meds, their rest, their nutrition.
I don't mind emails saying the doctor says they need this or that or can you please do this or that. But I would resent being dictated to.
I'm not saying you dictated to him, but unless he is seriously endangering S then you'll have to pick your battles.
I don't think STBXW feeds the girls very well and she definitely isn't fostering a routine or lifestyle of exercise for them.
So on my time we go to the gym and gorge on fruit and only have french fries one day a week.
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CTH-I didn't make a big deal out of it with H because I understand it is a small thing. Same with the action figures. I don't mind if H buys them for S, but I am not going to. We have a really good parenting relationship, and I know I can't tell H what to do with S. I just ask and if he doesn't do it I want to keep a record here in case anything big happens. I understand H wants to be just a play guy and S's buddy. H has chosen to only see S for 26 hours every two weeks so I understand not wanting to battle with S. I am not really mad, but still learning what our roles are. H and I are still working together.
With work, everything is good. H has text me twice to make sure all is well. I do appreciate that because he would have to get S if anything happened, even if we were stuck somewhere for a while. All is well.
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It seems like the issue is less about H not following thru (but like CTH said, in cases such as that, you will have to pick & choose the important battles), but more the issue is that H isn't parenting and letting S be the boss. Maybe it's not a huge deal with chapstick, but in the long run, this could cause issues. (I can completely sympathize b/c I am dealing with this with my inlaws. S is in control, not them. Ie. For me, maybe S not listening & running off for them when it's diaper change time isn't a big deal, but when he was home, grabbed the pumpkin knife, didn't listen and ran off, it became a huge issue!) I imagine H would be defensive about anything you say to him tho, so it's going to be an difficult battle to make him understand the problem with this.
That's scary about the bomb threat. More than likely it's probably nothing, but it's good that your school is being so vigilient about it. I know, that is my worst fear about something happening to me too. Unfortunately we can't live our lives in that fear, but it's definitely a thought in the back of my mind.
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