Question about arguing

[gutwrenching]

I know I felt very tense and uncomfortable and I had tried to communicate that to her earlier in the day. But right now, she struggles communicating in return because she doesn't want to hurt me and she is struggling with these feelins for OM.

I didn't handle her consuming herself in the phone well at all. With it being "that day", with having heard about those feelings ealier in the day, it triggered that lack of trust in me and my pride being hurt again and I started the fight. I honestly don't remember what I said, I'm sure it could have been said much better, but I don't remember

I guess the key now FMV, is any advice on how to repair and move forward. It feels like we took a couple of steps backwards. It seems like we are at another crossroads where she has decide me or him...she told me she has already made that choice (and she did...from my sitch when she finally realized what S meant and that I was letting go, she ended it with him and asked for another chance to work on our M)...but I think she needs to make it again.