Future, I have a question for you if you don't mind. Why does your MC advise you to not disregard your W, etc.? Is it to keep a civil relationship with your W for the sake of your children or is it to keep things friendly with your W to possibly keep the door open for the M in time? Just wondering. I ask because I wonder if keeping things friendly with my W is still the way to go or just be extremely distant.
Wishing you the best.
Hi mza8-
It's to keep her from panicking and going crazy, which makes my life easier, as well as being respectful of the fact that we have to co-parent together, as well as not destroying possibility of future reconciliation.
I don't think you need to make a point to be extremely distant, but you do need to live your life for you, and let her and your M go. What I've found is that no interaction is fine. It puts the relationship in hibernation, giving time for negative emotions to wane. No interaction is infinitely better than any negative contact.
