I appreciate the views and counseling from all of the vets. Each have their own style and tactics. However, the core theme that each vet brings is to help you see your own sitch objectively and focus on making you healthy so that you can endure the journey a head whatever the outcome maybe.
robx your style is more blunt and direct than others, but if the receiver listens to the message and not focus on the way it is delivered there is a wealth of knowledge to be had. There are only a few posters that I always go to and you are one. Your message is always direct and to the point and most importantly consistent.
