I think that the advice given by the vets is very good. It's the only way you're going to rebuild a healthy relationship. Sure, you might get your M back another way, but who wants to be in a R where you feel like you have no power?
I think it's tough advice to swallow, though. And when you first get here, you are terrified, unable to think rationally, and I think that it takes time to get to the point where you are willing to implement the advice. For everyone it's personal, but I think everyone gets there at some point.
