Good morning Pinhead, just stopping by to send you my support. These last couple posts are fairly significant, don't you think? Just wanted to encourage you too, to not assume that your wife's feelings for you will never come back, even though they've been lost through the years. It just takes so much darn time Pinhead.

I know I've shared with you that I thought my love for my H was gone too. Don't know if I've shared though, how LONG it took and how hard the experience was. It was a full 10 months of me working really hard - monthly or twice-monthly visits to a therapists to talk it out, plus reading everything I could get my hands on and posting here regulary - before I started feeling 'in love' with my H again. It was really painful and I had to look deeply at myself and my background - it was exhausting, and still can be at times.

I think you're doing great Pinhead... just try to be patient... don't give up on her; I DO agree with the others not to just roll over and let her use you; but just want to encourage you to keep an open mind. It can take a long, long time.


Originally Posted By: pinhead

She said that she's been asking me to be more involved with the family, to stop spending so much time on the computer, to pay more attention to her. And that she felt like I was butting in on things/activities with our daughters. That I thought she was a bad mother.

I said I thought she was a great mother, and that if I had made her feel like I was jumping in too much, I was sorry.

This is a great interaction, don't you think?... especially that she's wanting more attention. What do you think about that?

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.