I am reading everyone's sitch's in preparation to meet my stbxw on Tuesday. You are right in that there are positives to take away from our M and R issues. I think that I have GAL fairly successfully and have participated in activities that I thought I never would do.
I know that I am a more content and happy than I was while together with my stbxw. I am ashamed to admit it, but I see myself in the actions of your H. I think we become so consumed with our own happiness and what we perceive as obsticles to our happiness that we tend to react negatively towards the obsticle...our spouse when in fact we were our own obsticle to happiness. Either way my sitch heads I know that I will be happy as well as knowing my stbxw will be happy....so we both win.
I see an evolution in your attitude NCU. From a frightened young woman who whould do anything to get her husband back because she needed him for her own happiness and did not feel worthy of others attention. To a confident woman who does not want to give up on her M, but realizes that she does not have to have her H for her to have a fulfilling and happy life.
