Please help ASAP

[gutwrenching]

You already are a fantastic partner, just have a stubborn mule of a H that can't see it...and if he can't he doesn't deserve you, that is the attitude you should have...it is true

As far as the letter, you have stirred quite a debate which is good. I don't have a strong opinion. I like the idea of writing it out and see if that helps. Other than that, I tend to listen carefully to what Lotus says...Lotus has offered me great support and insight in the past