She IS trying to grow up...the attempts at independence are clearly all about that. From the one email you shared that SHE wrote from MC, she seems bright and actually has some insight. you are both focused now on becoming the adults you WANT to be, the people you want to be... I'm proud of you; I will just be so sad if you can't end up as a family together. It's going to take your W some time, going to school and doing things to give her idenity and self-esteem that she was using EA to do.
I know; I'm just an older version of her:(. Not to hijack your thread John, but reading your story has helped me. After reading your pain and effort with this marriage...I'm coming here for the support instead of to the EA; tonight I deleted my game App on my cellphone tonight where I chatted with OM, am deleting his number and email. Now... What to do to about my good (but unfulfilling) M to MY good man? The real work begins !!!
Good luck John... I hope hearing a wayward W's perspective helps. Albeit, I' m a bit older ( and wise enough to come here looking for help), I just hope it doesn't take a Bomb and the death of all my feelings to change my (long!) M. I'm ashamed for him to ever find out about the EA, but in a way it might be the only thing to make change happen. But, by the time I'd be willing to put my family through that kind of pain...
Whew, this is heavy stuff here. The lighthearted EA's are easier, but knowing the collateral damage... Not the way I'll leave if/ when I go. I just don't want to go back to being the depressed, lonely person in my SSM anymore either (before EA).
I just hope you two can work it out! I guess I still am a romantic soul, and with all the change you've both worked on... Your marriage still seems to have a chance.
