I have been reading this thread and feeling a little slutty, cuz I don't see anything wrong with kissing on the first date. I would hate to date a guy several times then find out he was a bad kisser. I like getting physical, and I don't see any harm in doing so in the beginning, to make sure the chemistry is there.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Kissing is so important. How a man kisses says so much about who he is emotionally, more than technique under the sheets.
Some of it is probably age, and some of it is probably geography. I'm guessing that the places where I've lived as an adult (esp in my early adulthood) are probably more sexually "relaxed" than the locations of most of the posters here.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
There may be hope for me! Two of the women I have dated actually said I was a good kisser! Which I never knew! And the third that I have kissed certainly didn't seem to avoid it.
Well, I STILL don't know about the chemistry of lack thereof with L-55. We went to see "Red" (a fun movie, by the way). A little touching during the movie, she didn't really pull back, but she didn't really encourage it, either. Then we ate, and talked. I did hold her hand for a while, there was a bit more arm touching and eye contact. And when we parted there was a hug. But I really get the feeling she's holing back. And in the long run, that's not going to to the trick. Oh, and she must be a bit old fashioned. I have paid for everything to this point.
As far as P-46, yesterday's date. She's worried about the distance, which I understand. But she is unusual, in a good way. I sent back that I'm willing to give things a try and see what happens. She has a bit of practicality in her, so she might not want to, but we will see.
There may be hope for me! Two of the women I have dated actually said I was a good kisser! Which I never knew! And the third that I have kissed certainly didn't seem to avoid it.
Way to go desert rat!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I do have a question about push up bras for the guys-- do you feel cheated when you find out it is just the bra? I was thinking of how Marilyn Monroe never took hers off when in bed and how the bra must have been attractive enough!
It's never just the bra! Whatever is there is just right!
I do have a question about push up bras for the guys-- do you feel cheated when you find out it is just the bra? I was thinking of how Marilyn Monroe never took hers off when in bed and how the bra must have been attractive enough!
It's never just the bra! Whatever is there is just right!
Nah! I think that the relevance of "size" is vastly overstated/represented in the folklore and the media. At least personally, I have been quite attracted to women of various sizes, and can't imagine that being a make or break type of issue. Or really, any issue at all.
A nice smile is a thousand time more important that the size of your chest. At least.
I have been reading this thread and feeling a little slutty, cuz I don't see anything wrong with kissing on the first date. I would hate to date a guy several times then find out he was a bad kisser. I like getting physical, and I don't see any harm in doing so in the beginning, to make sure the chemistry is there.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a kiss on the first date either.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
