Wife's EA/PA how to handle changing situation

[Grocerykartman]

Sure you do. We all do, or did at one time. That's the key thing here...it is really a battle against yourself rather than a battle against her right now. You want to know you did all you could, BUT, there is a difference between doing all you can that is intuitive to you and all you can that that feels weird. Right now, it feels weird not to tell her "Hey, if you want to talk about the R, text me" because you probably think she'll think you don't care.

But weigh this out here, she is leaving you AND the kids for a week to find space, and yet you still are stuck heavily on worrying about what she'll think of you if you don't say this. She's not worried about what YOU think of her going away for this week, not to mention how she wasn't worried about you during the "confirmed A" portion of your situation.