H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[glamgirl]

I wouldn't read too much into the stages of MLC they can easily jump back and forth and you just really never know.

There is no reason not to stay friendly and communicative with your h. I was only suggesting not to bother with defending and trying to explain yourself or trying to communicate when clearly your h is upset.

I can tell you I spent way too much time defending my actions, how I felt about my h when in fact it really didn't matter. Drove my h further away, since all he could see was control and chasing him with guilt.

Always think, does this really need to be answered or discussed now. It seems you do really well, when you keep your h in somewhat of suspense or less available to him. It's at these times he is nice and wants to know what you are up to.