Not sure where to start or end? WAW? #4

[john28]

T2GU - thanks so much for your comments.

You're probably spot on about my W. I never rejected her physically, but looking back what lead to her EA was me not being there spending quality time really LISTENING to her. I was a horrible listener and I was away from home alot. By the time I saw it, it was too late.

So many of my older female friends (including hers!) have said the same exact thing - "I want to sit her down and shake her and talk with her." I do too, but she has shut off all friends of hers that don't agree with her perspective of the sitch. Furthermore, her own mother won't talk to her about it because she doesn't want to get in the middle and/or doesn't agree with D as an option. So, my W is left nearly alone to make this decision and keep it.

She does love me. But she can't picture a life with me at all right now and doesn't think that is going to change. Those are her words, not my mindreading. I can't change those feelings and thoughts.

I can only give her a better option than what she has.