Guess what - he asked one of the kids this week if she'd "like him to come back home". Not an anodine question, since he doesn't really talk to me or to them about the situation. He knew she'd tell me. Well, I'm not so sure if I'd want him back at present. I trusted him blindly, that's all dust. I valued him and respected him, it apparently stopped being mutual. He's said some very hurtful things to me in the course of his affair and of leaving. If he is testing the water, I'm not grabbing the phone. He'd need to ditch some of that arrogance and "superiority" and eat humble pie if he came back. The R would have to be rebuilt from scratch. InSeptember, he talked once about coming back for the children. I now know that that is out, as far as I'm concerned. It's for me and to live with me or nothing.
So there you have my current feelings. NCU
Wow...
This is the voice of a strong woman.
And you're right, he was too chicken to approach you directly. Much safer to use your kid as an intermediary.
Keep focusing on finding more of that sturdy, self-confident core!
