@movinonORnot - excellent points. I have to say it took me forever to detach and not expect a "pat on the head". Once I have, it became much easier (and also I felt more love toward my life instead of resentment).
@whitney - If you can successfully detach (without losing the desire to restore your family/marriage), I think you will enjoy the moments with your wife and children more without feeling the highs and lows so often. Praying for you, your wife and your children.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God