Thank you for posting and for sharing your personal information. I REALLY appreciate your perspective. It helps a lot to hear others' experiences.
In my situation it took the bomb for me to realize that XH had put BMF before me, because H/XH used to make little snide remarks about BMF's lifestyle from time to time. H/XH was always a man with integrity so everyone else in his life questioned how he could be best friends with BMF. I now see for the first time examples of XH being less than truthful........that' why I took him off the pedestal.
I will admit that the reason I initially proceeded with the forensic analysis was to show XH that BMF had lied to him..........thought this might bring XH to question how many other times BMF had lied to him..........but this reason became less important to me a few weeks ago. Now I want to see how XH reacts to this process.
