online dating tips, do-over

[flowmom]

I don't want to confuse sexual attraction with emotional attraction and I think it is an area i need to work in. It's hard though because it's an area that I like very much....

Call me confused . I guess I am finding that it's all mixed up for me right now, and I think I want it that way. I just want to follow my bliss, not put labels on things and define them.

[desert_rat]

I don't think I have ever mentioned appearance in my email greeting. Like flowmom said, it's obvious, isn't it? I do make sure that I specifically mention something that's in their profile, so they don't get the impression that I just read the profile for the pictures!

[sandycay]

I don't want to confuse sexual attraction with emotional attraction and I think it is an area i need to work in. It's hard though because it's an area that I like very much....

Call me confused . I guess I am finding that it's all mixed up for me right now, and I think I want it that way. I just want to follow my bliss, not put labels on things and define them.

I have always been a very physical person so that part is easy peasy for me, I'm just doing a 180 for me. I think I was a man in a previous life! LOL

[newmama]

Sandycay, the guy likes you! They contact us when they like us! He is being a gentleman. Especially since you were doing happy hour and not some romantic-y kind of date.

Even my exH didn't make any physical move on the first date and I was the one to initiate kissing on the second date.

But when the men don't say anything to us like they think we are pretty/ cute, or like our eyes, or don't even pat us on the arm or scoot next to us, it can make us feel like you aren't attracted to us!

As for compliments about our profile pics-- I like hearing them, sure! But I prefer "you have a beautiful smile" or "you have gorgeous eyes" or "red is your color!" or "you look very pretty" OVER "you are smokin' hot" or "sexy" or some other crass comment.
Save that for the makin' out conversation!

[kml]

I am a product of a different generation I guess. I've been trying to remember if I ever had a first date that DIDN'T end in a kiss???

[kat727]

I don't think our ages are that different but I don't kiss on the first date. I never did when I was younger and I imagine I will be the same now.

kat

[newmama]

Well I can't wait to make out again and now that my house is clean, maybe some feng shui will come my way!

I think it's time to update my profile. Maybe I will borrow Flowmom's idea and write it differently. Maybe I will post a picture showing cleavage! (just kidding)

I do have a question about push up bras for the guys-- do you feel cheated when you find out it is just the bra? I was thinking of how Marilyn Monroe never took hers off when in bed and how the bra must have been attractive enough!

[v1olin]

I love bras but I think I am more of a leg man.

[v1olin]

Thanks to everyone for the great advice on my question! It does help me.

[BobbiJo]

My first boyfriend took 4 months to kiss me, my second one took 6 weeks (3 dates) to kiss me...but hey that was high school! There were a few guys I made out with in college that I never went out on a 'date' with...just hung out at a party together and went from there, or walked home from the bar together...

I kissed vomit guy on the first date but the refs were throwing flags there right and left and I chose to ignore them, so my fault entirely! Haven't kissed anyone else on the first date yet but didn't really want to...Golf Guy and I kissed on our second date, but it was 5 months after our first date! (Wow I am a slow mover). Saturday will be our third date (two months after our second date) so we shall se what that brings...

I never really thought about how much I enjoyed hugging/kissing/spooning, etc until after my exH left...now it sucks because I am so wired for that, but I have to WANT to kiss you, and have not met that many guys who fit the bill...