I never said anyone was forcing me to stay here. I'm choosing to stay here, to stay in my home, to stay with my daughters for as much time as possible. My wife is free to leave any time she wants. I'm not holding her captive here. I'm not seeking sympathy from anyone, just trying to describe what's going on in case something is slipping past me since my perspective is biased.
I don't see that I am "getting exactly what you deserve." And I thought this forum was a place where people could vent their frustrations and hurt.
I'm not ignoring my wife. I talk to her as much as possible, without pursuing. I'm not bringing up R talks, and when she talks to me, I'm validating and listening as best as I can. I'm spending a lot of time with my daughters, trying to enjoy life instead of being bitter. I'm exercising, going to church, working hard at my jobs, living life.
Yes I wish my wife was happier; I have a lot of empathy for her situation, for how she feels. But it's not my job to make her happier; nor to manipulate her so she is happier.
And yes, I wish my wife still loved me; but that's not something I can create out of thin air. Her attraction to me has been lost over the years, and I can't cold-heartedly kick her out of our home, even if it was legally possible. She'll either find enough reasons to stay, (and hopefully enough happiness to make it livable) or she'll move out. She's free. No rope to drop on my end. I'm not holding on at all...
