I got an envelope in the mail from the Arkansas lawyer yesterday. They got my answer to H's D papers filed and the motion to dismiss. Just in time too, they worked out the deadline to be the 3rd and that's when they got it all filed. I can't say I'm happy, but not really sad either. In fact it feels kind of nice to know there's some sort of resolution to this on it's way. Even if the case doesn't get dismissed, I have the L in Arkansas but everyone is confident that it will be dismissed since . . . well, H has never lived in that county (especially not for 60 days before filing).
I'm still DB'ing, kind of, as well as you can with a WAS that doesn't communicate at all. H did call to talk to D the day after Halloween. She got upset on the phone and I had to soothe her and ask her not to cry. As always his tone was very different when we hung up. I don't know if he expects everything to be ok or if he hates being reminded what he's done . . I guess it doesn't matter right?
I have been planning for Christmas in my head. H is getting his two sons and wants D at the same time. I have absolutely no problem with that, but I don't want him taking D to stay with OW's parents (they live here, she's from here). However, he still maintains (to me) that nothing is going on with OW, so I'm not sure how to bring it up to him, other than to just say, "I only want D staying at your moms." I'm sure that would be good enough, but with the way he's been lately (evading service for the divorce he wanted), I can see him making it difficult.
I've been going on "dates", whoo! It's actually only been one guy, I think I posted about "dating" him before. I've made it really clear that I'm not willing to really invest anything into a relationship yet and he understands. So we've been doing a lot of just casual hanging out which has been great.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
