Interesting perpective GAG, why would you want to be with someone who put a freindship above your relationship! I struggled with a similar problem with my H except just to throw a bigger spanner in the work it was my sister who was his EA!
She unlike him is in an unhappy marriage, currently living in the same house as they cant afford to split till next year! They havent been together as a couple for the last two years and although now after my H's return she has found a new boyfriend at the time I suspect they were both party to a mutual pity party of how bad things were for each other!
The moral of my story is you cant share your life with someone who puts someone above you in status and my H was told exactly that before I let him return, honestly if our financial situation hadnt required him returned quicker Id have made him court me so to speak a lot longer than really happened..
Even when he did come home he had to be weaned off his EA! At first he was like a spoilt child who had been told he couldnt have a friend, it took six months and me almost walking before he came to his senses that he couldnt have someone else as emotional support and ME!
MHL makes a lot of sense if you cant be top dog in your H's sight you must respect yourself enough to let him go until he sees that (if thats your choice) or find someone who will!
Huge hugs hope you dont mind me butting in!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
