Hi! Haven`t met you before but found your post so inspiring.
Won`t respond to everything in it but...
Congrats on making a phenomonal you! Really, at your stage, with the kids so young I too felt utterly swamped. Lost myself in the kids and instead of helping, H got crosser. Probably because I lost myself.
I think some guys (and probably women) are so badly wounded themselves that they cannot help those closest to them.
I also have a theory that they hook up with undesirable people because those very people are so used to rejection too that they make our wounded spouses feel good about themselves as they`re so delighted to have them in their lives.This has been my experience with H anyhow.
You`re H can`t care for his kids even. He`s lahing out at everything close to him ESPECIALLY his own kin.
Is there a place for forgiveness and gentleness there? You H literally doesn`t realize what pain he is causing for himself the the kids down the road.
No point in pleading with him of course.
But could you make it easier for him to make amends with the kids when he does realize his mistake. Could his family support him right now-no not in his decision-but in being there for him as he struggles through the mess and confusion in his head?
Or am I completely crazy to suggest that?
Now, can you tell us where you get all your phenomenal energy for doing all you do AND taking on more? Three small kids, job, house move AND study!
