Need insight

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Hey Pickle:

I think you need to hear this, my way.

I VERY RARELY post anymore, and, in fact, have sat on my hands for over an hour trying not to.

I can't not.

Here's the deal. I did the DB thing for my MARRIAGE for 2 1/2 years. And, only once I did it for myself did it have any impact on my M.

Your wife is having an EA w/her ex. She is well on her way to it becoming a PA.

Your DB coach will tell you a lot of things to do. Do them, BUT do them for YOU!

I heard all of the things you heard, had the H sleeping on the FLOOR next to our bed (his back hurt I whatever) slept in the family room w/the kids, etc... This is all pure bullcrap.

Take your DB coaches advice, but throw a lot of Rob in.

I can't think of anything less attractive in a man than one that would let me do my own thing, emotionally and/or physically, and stay with me. Ick. I also wouldn't be too impressed w/a man who wanted me after I cheated on him. Mega ICK

After I found my self-confidence and the courage to truly move on (remember after 2 1/2 years), I found myself face-to-face w/a naked H, finally interested in my attention.

I could think of nothing worse happening by then. I had moved on, became happy, and content w/my life choices.

I'm so happy now. Remember, it became MY choice then, and I ad DB's myself back.

Good Luck, and don't let her continue this under your roof, w/your kids as a witness. Remember, you are molding their ideas on adulthood, marriage and personal ethics.