Hi Piano How right you are. Mind you, I'm not blaming my Mum, far from it. The fact is that I'm only learning at 46 that it's legitimate to state calmly what you want or need, hear the other person out and not necessarily give in to them on the spot. I never raised my voice, but felt a lot of resentment sometimes, so that was not great for my H either. i wouldn't sulk, just go quiet and feel down. I don't mean I want all to go my way, just that I want to be able to hold my ground equally, with others.We'll see if I can put it into practice! NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
