Lotus makes some very good points. I did appologize to my H early sfter the bomb. Shortly afterwards he moved out, but he had already been planning it. He probably saw it as too little too late. It did take the wind out of his sails and H started to notice the changes I was making. He also stopped being as accusitory. Kind of took the wind out of his sails.
I would suggest a book called "The 5 Languages og Appology" before you do this. It helped make my appology a real one and not just annother attempt to argue my side with my H.
