Last night when I was on my way home from work, WAW texted "you should come for a beer". I was carpooling with a co-worker and he and I went to the restaurant/bar she works at. He had one beer and left. I had another and had dinner with WAW. She gave me a trivia book she got from a supplier. It was like old friends having a beer together and little more. But that's not a bad thing. She drove me home and went back to work for a meeting.
No contact today other than Scrabble on FB. I will see her tomorrow when we have bday dinner for our son and her Dad at that same restaurant.
Today I got the cell number of another 26 year old woman I met a few weeks ago.
Last night at bday dinner for our son and WAW's Dad, WAW did the following:
1) The moment I walked in, said "nice shirt".
2) Kissed me as she walked past my chair and said "thanks for talking the other day" - in reference to last Friday night when I accepted her invitation to stop by for a beer
3) Said "do you like my shoes?" and did her best to show off her calves to me. She has incredible legs, but I pretended not to notice and just said "I guess they're nice, not really into women's shoes"
4) After I put my jacket on because I was cold, she rubbed my back to warm me up.
I did not react to any of this anymore than I would if another friend did any of it. I think it drives her crazy when I am truly just a friend. But it works for me.
From what I've read, this is pretty typical, BTM. They do this for show. It's more important to read them on how they treat you when no one is watching (not a bad idea for non-waywards, and Life in General, too!).
Life used to be so much simpler, but not as fun...
I had a date with one of the 26 year old women this Friday. I asked her to go to a fancy schmancy fundraising dinner. I found out yesterday that D19's graduation is the same night. So...I had to cancel. She had just spent 2 hours dress shopping and had bought "a perfect little black number". She forgave me and I will take her out another time.
The funny part - WAW's reaction when I said I will have to cancel my date, but would attend - and her reaction last night when she dropped S17 off at home and I was outside talking on cell phone to that woman.
This in the same day that she questioned why my cell phone bill was so high and who did I talk to for over an hour long distance? That was the other 26 year old - but I didn't tell her. Yes...WAW gets my cell phone bill still - it's part of a group billing thing where she works. And frankly, I think it's funny that she can see how many calls I now make and receive and to numbers she does not know.
Attended D19's graduation last night rather than having my first date with a woman I met. WAW looked good, but I didn't say anything.
Earlier this week my daughter was telling me about a conversation she had with her mom. WAW is frustrated with job and thinking of quitting. It's unlikely she could find a similar job paying as well. She told D that she can't afford to quit unless she asks me if she can move back home. My only comment to D was "that's no reason to come home".
Monday night WAW and I will be "celebrating" our first "noniversary" by having dinner together at a local restaurant that is rated in the top 80 in the world. That could be an interesting night.
I think she is feeling the need to mark her territory and if you give into her now all your progress will fade quickly. Are you strong enough emotionally to sleep with her and not get hung up on her?
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
