Hello, been mostly lurking.. not sure where to post since the forum was shut down, and then prematurely reposted in Infidelity which is now a very dead forum frown.

Husband is now overseas with OW.

He has started work there, and presumably lives with OW (I have no phone number or address. Admittedly haven't asked. Why would I?).

He's sent one or two emails in the last fews months regarding his job searches, and asking me for news of our daughter, 5months old.

I would go completely dark on him, but for the baby.

I need to be able to talk to him about financials, and perhaps give him updates on baby.

What kind of tone should my emails take?


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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