Sorry that communication is so difficult with H. I haven't seen you post much about him so I wasn't certain. How long can this take in your state? Would there be any benefit to having a separation agreement? That wasn't an option in my state but we don't have children. From what I've read, if there are children involved the process takes longer, parenting classes may be mandatory, etc.
Do you live in a small, medium, or big town? A friend of mine just received a very favorable decision from a judge. She lives in a small town and the judge took a personal interest in her story when one of the detectives investigating her XH's complaint found out from her interview all of the highjinks her XH was pulling. Just sayin' that it might be possible to get more personal attention if a judge realizes that the respondent is being treated unfairly.
