You are sounding good, NCU. Your husband needs to earn your respect and trust again. I also did not learn how to set boundaries - or rather, I would try, with raised voice, which is not an affective way of protecting oneself. My mother resists arguments at all costs, and would sulk to get her way, and so I didn't have a role model to show me how one can state ones needs and have them met or respected. The things we learn... and have to unlearn!
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
