MLC, H & me...moving foward

[newmama]

CW, I am wishing you luck. As for raking your H over the coals, I think you know that you are not trying to "take him for all he's worth" due to anger, resentment, betrayal, etc. You truly are trying to make sure you have financial security. SO please don't feel guilty!

I was thinking that because we were married, we had different money decisions/choices/options whatever you want to say. Like I wouldn't be living where I am if it weren't for H, and have accrued certain bills, etc. SOOO because of the decision to divorce, our H's have obligations that they wouldn't have if they stayed married. Sucks for them but it was their choice. We are left with the financial consequences of the marriage (whatever they may be) so it is only fair that they help out with that.