If anyone reads this tonight I could use some advice. I have been doing a good job with the 180 for the last few weeks. I have been doing my own thing, staying positive, no R talk, etc. But my husband is scheduled to move out on Wed, and today we sat down to talk out the details of him leaving. I get emotional every time we talk about my son. So even though i think i have reached a point where I am ok with him going, when it comes to sharing my son I start to lose it. As we talked about the details I did ok, but listening to how "positive" he is about the whole situation made it hard. He acts like this does not hurt him at all to have to do this. I finally said to him, even though i know i shouldn't have, "Is this really what you want?" wrong thing to say. That's when he gets cold and defensive. "I knew you would try to talk me out of this again" he said. I tried to defend myself by saying that I was not I was just asking. Then I asked what his relationship with ow consisted of at this time. Again, cold and defensive. "I still talk to her, but it is not a relationship." he said. I said can you at least admit that is part of the reason that you are doing this? He said "it is a percentage". I told him how mad that made me that i continue to protect him and his job by not saying anything, but that he continues to hang out with her at work. He said that it was not what i think it is, and that if they were going to have a relationship this time they would do it the right way like they should have the last time. I know I need to go back to detach mode but more than anything this conversation made me want to start asking questions about the ow again. We separate on Wed. Do you think that there is more going on with her than he is saying? Is there any hope to tyring to save this still?
