I am always amused at a WAS reaction to the "changes" that they claim they wanted to see from the LBS.
When you "change," they get mad because they have to think up another excuse to leave.
Yep. My H told the whore he was pursuing that *I* was acting like an alien, and he journaled about how angry he was with me for changing.
Were there things I needed to change that probably led us to the point he was susceptible to becoming attracted to another woman? Absolutely. It didn't excuse his behavior, however.
I made up my mind that I would fix every single complaint he had about me so he couldn't use that as an excuse to leave. If he was going to leave, he was going to have to man up and do it without cause. It helped that he really is the "good guy" and would have died to have had to admit to anyone that I'd done the work and he left anyway. That personality trait worked in my favor. His family was also aware of all the work I did and were friends to the marriage.
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Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
