She's in MLC, but I was weak. Now what?

[crushednstuck]

Rough day today. W seems to be moving further into the rabbit hole. She doesn't understand why people are upset with her. So she lashes out at me.
It's clear she's made no progress over the last 13 months. I told her I was disappointed to know that OM was still around. I said I was concentrating on working on myself. "There's so much for you to work on that there's no time for me", she says. She still refuses to take any responsibility for where the M wound up. It's all about my failures to "connect" with her.

I told her that I wasn't comfortable going back to counseling until OM was gone and we could work on the M. Yet she expects me to be reaching out.