An eventful week actually! H has continued to keep me involved in his life. He's still working on the paint colors for the new place and invited me over on Monday night while he was working for my opinion. I had turned him down the last couple of times he had invited me to visit him at work, so even though I was tired, I thought I should make the effort. I'm glad he values my opinion and I think we got the colors worked out now! On Wednesday, I get a text from H that he's dying his hair gray. At first I thought he was joking, but no, he was completely serious! He wanted to go for a more distinguished look (although, to me it sounds like a midlife crisis type thing to do! haha). It's a little shocking at first (he used to have black hair, so it's quite a change), but it's actually not that bad and kind of grows on you. On thursday night, he invited S and I to have dinner at the place (he wasn't working, but just wanted to eat there), but I think it's good that he likes to have me around the new place (unlike before when he tried to keep me out of his work life/friends completely). After dinner, we came back to my house and hung out for awhile.
On friday though, something super scary happy. Of course this is the one day I forget my phone at home, but I guess H was home that morning and started having major heart palpatiations. Then a little bit later he started getting dizzy and his feet went numb. He finally ended up calling 911 and they sent an ambulence over and took him to the hospital right away. After lots of testing, them couldn't find anything wrong, so are attributing to stress and high blood pressure (he doesn't normally have high blood pressure, but for some reason it shot up that morning). I know talking to H the night before, he was super stressed. We get there for dinner and his uncle is sitting at the bar totally drunk. Part of the agreement of getting the place is that they were not suppose to be drinking at their bar, but the only one who can enforce it (H's dad), is not doing anything about it. H is so frustrated b/c his dad doens't care and his uncles are impeding his potential for success there. I'm really impressed with H tho. He's completely stepped up and really doing at great job. Another part of H's stress is related to his dad. Part of his goals with his therapist was to establish a R with his dad. H has completely giving up saying it's hopeless b/c his dad doesn't even like him (yeah, after what he did to me, things kind of deteriorated between them, but still). To make matters worse, that same night before, H found out that his dad was going on a trip with his business partner to see a baseball game, and his partner was bringing his son, but H's dad didn't even invited him. H was really hurt and that only fueled his anger more against him. The only good thing, is that after the heart issues linked to stress on Friday, H mentioned again about going back to the original dr to get help for his anger issues (& ADD). He keeps talking about it so hopefully this will be the straw that pushed him to do it.
The only hard part is now I feel a little weary about pushing the "us" issue too. (Or maybe he's already thinking about us (but blaming it on the new place only) which is adding over extreme stress level.) Since things have gone positive over all for us, I'm tring to just go with the flow and see what happens. I need to get on my research about MC's tho, in case the opportunity comes up!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
