H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Thank you glam...you are right...I just thought that we were past the dark/angry/no communication stage. He seemed much more friendly lately...but also more depressed....yesterday he asked D for links (she takes psychology) to some stress tests that he wanted to take...so he is starting to realize that he needs help and that he is not OK. Six months ago he would flatly refuse to believe that he may be suffering from depression...thought that he was just unhappy being with me and not with OW.

I also really try to maintain positive relationship with him and the communication open as much as I can, since I'm just finishing up the SA and I want him to be reasonable, so we can do it amicably and the second issue is that we are still business partners...so I do want to keep this on a level where we can a least cooperate....so subconsciously I may be trying to defuse things...to placate him when he is angry...to keep it friendly....hard right now

Can't wait until I get a job and sell the house and be on my own. I bet that he wouldn't feel that he can come into my new house anytime he wants to.