So..........my H is buying a house.

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Thanks for checking in, Up. I have let go of the anger about the house purchase. I don't dwell on the fact that I am co-owner of a house I haven't seen and won't in the near future.Posting here about the situation and listing why I was angry helped me release it. I would change the name of the thread if I knew how....

I think I can also say with sincerity that I do hope this brings him happiness.

I am currently struggling with his continued
efforts to make plans with the kids after school

without telling me. I find out from D17 when
plans have been made. We shared some texts yesterday that were pretty charged. I tried only
to stress that he needs to contact me. Even
though I work until 4:30, the kids's after school
schedules are my responsibility. I have made it
clear more than once that I don't have issue with the plans, just that I need to be told. It just pisses him off. He doesn't want to have to tell me. Is this co-dependent behavior on my part? Am I being too controlling? I don't think so, I think as a parent I need to know the plans. I also think when another parent is involved in the plans and it is not their scheduled time with the kids (given the fact there has to be a schedule) as an adult that parent should contact the other parent about the plans. If I'm being unreasonable.....help me.....

I haven't bad a minute to open the co-dependent book. Eric, that's first on my list for Tuesday. Monday night is play-off football game.

I have a lot of work to do before I even know what to put on my list of what I want. I did spend a few hours with friends Thursday evening.....even though I had the kids. They put themselves to bed. It was hard, but these two friends are nearly impossible to schedule time with, so I left the kids to have a drink and talk.