Kml-- just saying that typically, when we get physical early, the relationships don't last long.
Hasn't been my experience. Last boyfriend before STBXH -- got physical quickly, together for 2 years and lived together for last year. Then met STBXH...
I think a huge factor is WHY things get physical quickly.
Is it because you feel a huge click with the man as a human being and feel so attracted to him that wild horses couldn't keep you from meeting him halfway in a kiss? That's how it was for me with Guitarist. We didn't kiss on the first date but the possibility was hanging in the air as we sat on a secluded beach and I would have totally welcomed a kiss (he was trying to be a gentleman).
OTOH, if you are a person who needs more comfort and trust before becoming physical and go along with a man's moving things ahead physically before you're ready, I could see how that could be a problem in developing a relationship. You have to be true to yourself and respect your own boundaries.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
