These abusive types will stoop to any level to re-write history. I'm constantly amazed at how my H perceives things--I know he is delusional!
One thing to keep in mind--button pushing is to get a reaction--they know you "care" when you get upset. Show NO EMOTION to any of his nonsense. I have steadily trained myself to let it all go past me with no reaction. It's not turned things around, but I do notice him doing it less and less.
I got a book that has been a good read, funny, and has a lot if insight into the "male mind". Why Men Marry Bitches. (and by bitches, it just means strong, confident women). It really spells out how men, ALL MEN, will push your buttons to get a reaction from you. The trick is, the better you are at not reacting, the more respect you will get.
It's not just this one, Hope, but all men do it--they are going to see what you are made of. Showing them that you can't be rattled is a skill you need to learn for the rest of your life.
