Mila, IF you respond, I think the most I would do is repeat your boundary. Something like "I am not keeping you from seeing your D. You know you are welcome anytime that I am home, with notice. I was not going to be home when you wanted to come." Or even just the last two sentences. Short and to the point.

I have set the same boundary with my H. Fortunately he has respected it so far with no anger. Perhaps he wouldn't be so accommodating if I still had Ds at home, I don't know.

I'm so sorry your H is still ranting so much at you. He's going to have a lot to come to grips with if he ever wakes up. Ugh.

M 65
H 64
T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08
Two Ds

Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man