I dressed up last night, put on some makeup and a push-up bra.
How about daily grooming? Do you wear makeup and keep your hair looking nice when you're at home? I think it's important to your self esteem to look good every day. I remember my grandmother would get up each morning and dress from head to toe, put her makeup on and have that hair in place. One day she was asked who she was getting dolled up for, and her answer was...."me".
Be good to yourself. Set goals and work hard to reach them. Don't accept second best.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!