Not quite sure what this means, but there has been movement by my H. The last few days I've had a couple of good "truth darts" come to me, and I've let them rip.

I read him the bulletin from our church service, which for the last 2 weeks has gone over the problems that insecure peaople bring upon themselves.

They surround themselves with insecure people.

Worth is based on external things.

They do not have a clear vision for their life.

They will spend their life living up to unrealistic expectations.

No one can disagree with them.

Praise makes them prideful.

Criticism discourages them.

Confrontation is avoided at all costs.

And the best one in my opinion. They will use and manipulate others, and in turn can be used and manipulated.

I read these off to him and told him in church I have gasped out loud because I see CLEARLY how insecure of a person he is. I asked him "do you ever feel manipulated"? and he thought about that and said "Only by you".

I then told him my favorite truth dart "Only a manipulator can be manipulated".

He went into a complete rage and I left the house, with him kicking the door as I left.

Yesterday I was invited to join some old friends on a ride and to hang out with them and play some card games afterwards. These are friends I hadn't seen literally in over 5 years. I was soooo excited.

So I dropped off my S at school and told my H that I was going out for the day and he was ever-so-helpful. Do you need to do X? Do you want me to do Y? I was like, um, who ARE you??

I met him at the football game afterwards when I got home and he was all "did you have a nice time?". I had SUCH a good time I just went into a story before I knew it.

Then at the football game a girlfriend and I were talking to the firefighters that come (she is married and her H was there too). Just joking and laughing with them and out of the corner of my eye I see my H with this INTENSE expression on his face and his body is in a completely agressive stance (he was in the back grilling hamburgers). I thought, hm, you seem to be not liking this!lol.

I am spending time thinking of how to DB him--it's probably a waste of time, but....it's just in me to continue this stuff.

Meanwhile I have to get comps on this house very quickly--the appraiser brought in a number that is a good 100,000 more than what this place would sell for. The real estate agents in my area are really shocked that this appraisal came in so high. That would be hugely to my disadvangate to have this be used at mediation!! (which has been changed to Nov 30, thank god).