Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

Did you file or did he? When is D happening?

Hi Soleil,...Nothing started YET...I have been advised to wait for him to file but I think that going on with separation agreement is the next move...ONE YEAR is when D "should" happen; or less...

Free, you continue to be an inspiration to me as I follow your thread. Although my H left me, the other night he literally said I LEFT HIM. Now how did that work? He also filed a motion for 50% custody of S6 which sadly in my state he may get, especially being the narcissistic liar he is and his ability to charm and coerce.

Hope4Luv; I just found a book for high conflict divorces; Spliting by Eddy Williams...they are so crazymaking...dont' try to make sense out of nonsense...take care of your self...

Then he started wanting to "negotiate" with me personally outside of mediation,

I literally have "not talked" to my (now NPDh; narcissitic personality disordered husband---no wonder he claims that he will not change; it is NOT a mental illness but a PERSONALITY disorder and is "woven into his very fiber"...) since May.

Power hungry, controlling, bas***ds is all they are.

Mine also, literally. Sad "little men" is what I call them...have to "put down a woman" to make themselves feel good.

I hope to have the strength and conviction that you have in your running. Thank you for setting the bar high for me!

(((Hope4Luv))) I hope that for you too hon...get educated about how to deal with and what to expect from your high conflict "h" and don't let him "side swipe" you with something that you are not prepared for...saying a prayer about custody and that his "charming ways" will be revealed.Got documentation??? Advice I have heard says to "stay calm and present the NEEDS of the children" and your desire for their safety and growth as your FIRST concern. Don't whine about how he has treated you...per se...

Take good care of yourself...don't engage in private conversations or agree with him on anything without your L's consult...I am planning on "letting my L do the talking" once I get one...I have nothing to say and I want my lawyer to hear every word he has to say (and line it up with the promises, apologies and false claims and THREATS and abuse in his emails...