FG,

I am not trying to get you to change your mind or even try to see things my way.

But....

To me, it seems like you are not communicating your needs to your Husband. properly.

Although I think it is good that you are getting on with your Christmas plans, I don't believe you are doing it in the right spirit.

I do not know you and only go by what you post here.

But your actions make you seem like the one who is bitter and angry.

If your Husband is in MLC and is depressed he won't give a damn about dishes or chores.

Does your Husband like having an Open House party? Is this something you did annually before MLC?

I hope you understand that I am not trying to harp on you it is just that something needs to change in your situation and I think it may be you.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.