Sandi thanks. What you have said seems to reaffirm to me that true love is indeed a "decision" and not a "feeling". I early on tried to get a few strong willed women to understand this but they simply could not. I think "retro" also tries to say this as a central theme. I think if this is well understood before the marriage vows there would be be very few A's and D's and WAW's. For you to rise above your feelings was not only very heroic but I'm guessing may not even have been attempted if your upbringing had not modeled the commitment of marriage to you.
