Yes, a good way of looking at it... It seems this is the crucial time to let him know it was 'no big deal' 'no strings attached' when he comes to drop of D. It was suggested to me by the DB coach but I never got that far. H is still like a squirrel. Almost no contact past couple of weeks.

Reading through your sitch... I am wondering where I find the pitfall information on dating when you are the LBS. I have had the urge lately even though I know in my heart I am truly not ready. Therefore, if someone has shared some good lessons, I would be all ears!!!

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."