Hey ya'll, I know weekends are slow, but I just wanted to say "THANK YOU" to all of you who have offered me support and advice over the last several weeks.
This last week it was especially hard for me to keep focused, but all the wonderful people I have met here have really made a difference for me. Even my IC has noticed how much more calm I have been and able to cope with all the drama coming at me.
You guys are making the difference for me between just surviving and starting to put my life back together again. I think I may actually be able to make it, no matter what happens.
Hi Zen, I caught up on your sitch. You are an incredible woman, keep it up. You are DBing your butt off. I suspect the pullback from the H will come soon? Thanks for all of the encouraging words on my sitch. I have looked forward to hearing from you. Hope you have a good weekend... I work all weekend
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
Sorry you have to work all weekend. Hopefuly it is still a good one.
Yea, I think some pull back may be due. H was supposed to come "hang out" with me & D3 tomorrow morning. Was originally just going to be him dropping D3 & heading to work, but after the other night he asked to stay a bit. Just got a call, and now he "forgot" he had office hours at the restaurant. Back to a drop-n-go.
Oh well, 5 min of DBing is better than none. And easier too.
Yes, a good way of looking at it... It seems this is the crucial time to let him know it was 'no big deal' 'no strings attached' when he comes to drop of D. It was suggested to me by the DB coach but I never got that far. H is still like a squirrel. Almost no contact past couple of weeks.
Reading through your sitch... I am wondering where I find the pitfall information on dating when you are the LBS. I have had the urge lately even though I know in my heart I am truly not ready. Therefore, if someone has shared some good lessons, I would be all ears!!!
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
That may be what you are looking for, I haven't read it yet, just have the link. Please be careful though. Dating before you have finished grieving your old relationship is full of pitfalls. It can also keep you from making a decission about your current hurting relationship with a clear head.
My personal decision is not to date or put myself in any situation that might lead to a R untill this R is fully decided, grieved for, and healed. I want my next relationship to be amazing, though I do hope my "next" relationship is with my H!
In the meantime, I go out with friends, chat here, and do things I enjoy. Going all out for a massage on occasion helps too.
Thanks Zen. I know better than to actually do it. There is no one on the horizon and I don't expect there to be. It will help to end my little fantasy though if I can hear other's experiences. I appreciate the link I will go read it.
I too look forward to my next most amazing relationship. The one I was in was dead. I also hope it is with my H but time will tell...
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
Yep, I just read it. It was well worth the read and puts things into prospective again. It's always good to realize why you start to feel the way you do.
Good night, good for you on going for the run. Mine is tomorrow morning too!
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
You guys are making the difference for me between just surviving and starting to put my life back together again. I think I may actually be able to make it, no matter what happens.
Thank you. : )
You're welcome. This board, and the people on it, saved me more than one. Like J3B says, pay it forward when the time is right.
Happy Weekend! PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
