Finding My Way

[Mystik]

Lostinlife, how would it do that? Wouldn't he just perceive it as me trying to be a b&^ch and take him for all I can?

[newmama]

Actually, I was thinking that maybe you are not able to move forward until the divorce is filed. Like it is closure you need except the thing is that I will never tell anyone (or you) that it means you won't have a future with your H. We just don't know unless we close that chapter and decide it. BUT maybe you aren't able to GAL because you are "waiting."

Divorce= ending a marriage (and a whole lot more).
Marriages end in divorce at least half of the time
I think because marriages are seen as disposable, it might mean that divorce is not seen as a finality like it once was....meaning maybe there are more cases of remarriages than there used to be.

So just as marriages today are not as permanent as they once were, perhaps divorces aren't either.

[Lostinlife]

Lostinlife, how would it do that? Wouldn't he just perceive it as me trying to be a b&^ch and take him for all I can?

He may at first, but accepting responsibility to his real family may help. You are his real family, he needs to step up to the plate for you.

[Mystik]

Could be, NM. I just really hope that there is a future for H and I together and a divorce isn't final. I'm just so scared that H has already decided that he doesn't want a future. But if he changed his mind once it can change again, right?

[Mystik]

Good point, Lostinlife. It may force him to realize what he's done.

[Lostinlife]

Good point, Lostinlife. It may force him to realize what he's done.

I think it will. He may be mad, but when he realizes it's the right thing.....his vows are to you, noone else, you.

[Lostinlife]

Could be, NM. I just really hope that there is a future for H and I together and a divorce isn't final. I'm just so scared that H has already decided that he doesn't want a future. But if he changed his mind once it can change again, right?

I read somewhere, it's never over until the papers are signed. There are alot of stories of people turning around right before it's finalized, etc.

I am holding out that hope also. I had to resort to protecting my boys and I, she was mad, but it made her realize what she was doing.

Still headed for D-Ville, but I won't give up yet. You don't either....hope is good.

[Mystik]

True on both accounts, Lost. I just have this feeling that we won't ever reach the point of finalizing a divorce. I am doing my best to keep my hopes up.

[Mystik]

Ugh, need to turn off signatures on another board I'm on. So many women are either pregnant or trying to get pregnant. And here I am, would love to have another baby but the odds of that ever happening are looking quite slim. I never imagined myself as having just one kid, there was always two when I daydreamed about my future. And being a single mom definitely was not part of those dreams. I love my son to death but so want to have a little girl. DS would be an awesome big brother, too bad I can't give him that opportunity.

Still no word from H, I had this awful thought this morning that something happened to him from that accident and Whore is not letting anyone tell me. I am his wife, dammit, I should be the one he's with! Not her.

DS has a solution to H's car problems. Said that Daddy can just use [Whore's] car. Great. Just want I want to see happen.

[Mystik]

No word from H today, so I have no clue if DS is going with him or not tomorrow.

I hate this.