H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[glamgirl]

Sorry Mila that your h is still getting to you. I know that many times I found myself like you defending my position etc and it never did any good.

Then I learned that you know what I don't have to take it. I can politely excuse myself and say something like h you are disrespecting me by raising your voice, we can talk another time after you calm down or something along those lines.

Works like a charm. I always stop the conversation now, before it escalates into something ugly.

Not sure if that would work for you, but just thought I would throw it out there. I often follow it up with an e-mail too.